{"id":803,"date":"2018-01-24T23:06:14","date_gmt":"2018-01-24T21:06:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/countto10.bg\/what-can-i-do\/"},"modified":"2018-04-12T16:24:16","modified_gmt":"2018-04-12T13:24:16","slug":"what-can-i-do","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/countto10.bg\/en\/what-can-i-do\/","title":{"rendered":"What Can I Do?"},"content":{"rendered":"

[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ background_color=”#2290a0″ inner_shadow=”on” fullwidth=”on” _builder_version=”3.0.106″ custom_padding=”0px|0px|0px|0px”][et_pb_fullwidth_header title=”What Can I Do?” subhead=”‘To be angry is to revenge the faults of others on ourselves.’ (Alexander Pope, English poet)” background_layout=”dark” _builder_version=”3.0.106″ custom_padding=”15px||15px|”][\/et_pb_fullwidth_header][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ _builder_version=”3.0.92″ background_image=”http:\/\/countto10.bg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/angry-youth-wide.jpg” custom_padding=”48px|0px|0px|0px”][et_pb_row custom_padding=”0px|0px|40px|0px” _builder_version=”3.0.92″][et_pb_column type=”2_3″ _builder_version=”3.0.47″ parallax=”off” parallax_method=”on”][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=”1_3″ _builder_version=”3.0.47″ parallax=”off” parallax_method=”on”][et_pb_text background_layout=”dark” _builder_version=”3.0.92″ text_font=”||||||||” text_font_size=”22px” text_line_height=”1.8em”]I know that anger is destructive.\u00a0<\/span>
\nI know that anger leads to violence.\u00a0<\/span>
\nI have had enough.\u00a0<\/span>
\nI want things to change!<\/span>
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Anger is a normal human emotion<\/h3>\n

Feeling anger is not, in itself, unhealthy. However, it can become a serious problem if you struggle to control it. When we can\u2019t control our anger, it\u00a0 starts taking over our life. One of two things can happen:<\/p>\n

1. It builds up inside us, leading to psychological problems like depression and anxiety. This in turn can lead to dependency on drugs or alcohol.<\/p>\n

2. It \u201cbreaks out\u201d, leading to negative behaviours like violence. This can lead to problems with personal relationships or the law.<\/p>\n

In both cases, uncontrolled anger can be the cause of health issues, from gastrointestinal problems to cardiovascular diseases (raised blood pressure, risk of stroke).
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What can I do to avoid uncontrolled anger controlling me?<\/h3>\n

It is\u00a0not<\/strong>\u00a0about not getting angry. It is\u00a0not<\/strong>\u00a0about completely suppressing your feelings of anger either.<\/p>\n

Rather, it is about learning how to calm down, regain control, express your feelings in an assertive (but non-aggressive) way, and finally redirect your energy into positive, constructive actions.
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I can…<\/h3>\n

[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row custom_padding=”2px|0px|27px|0px” make_equal=”on” parallax_method_1=”off” disabled_on=”off|off|off” admin_label=”row” _builder_version=”3.0.47″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”3.0.47″ parallax=”off” parallax_method=”off”][et_pb_tabs admin_label=”Vertical Tabs” module_class=”ds-tab-cube” _builder_version=”3.0.106″ tab_font=”||||||||” tab_text_color=”#ffffff” body_font=”||||||||” body_text_color=”#ffffff” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#ffffff” border_style=”solid”][et_pb_tab title=”Count to 10″ _builder_version=”3.0.106″ tab_font=”|700|||on||||” tab_font_size=”16px” tab_text_color=”#333333″ tab_line_height=”2em” tab_line_height_tablet=”2em” tab_line_height_phone=”2em” body_font=”||||||||” body_text_color=”#333333″ body_line_height=”2em” body_line_height_tablet=”2em” body_line_height_phone=”2em” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat”]The old ‘tried and tested’ technique of counting to 10<\/strong> <\/span>works for more than one reason.\u00a0On one hand, it allows your brain to focus on the action of counting, rather than on the event that caused you to get upset.\u00a0On the other hand, when combined with a deep breath (or two), the extra burst of oxygen delivered to your brain will enable you to think more clearly and gain focus.<\/p>\n

This is often enough to difuse a tense situation, and to stop you from acting rashly and saying or doing something you may later regret.<\/p>\n

Counting and concentrating on your breathing is also a basic meditation technique<\/strong><\/span>, used by many people all over the world. Studies have shown that practising meditation on a regular basis helps to decrease depression, reduce anxiety and stress, improve focus and\u00a0increase mental strength, amongst many other benefits.<\/p>\n

\"\"[\/et_pb_tab][et_pb_tab title=”Talk to someone” _builder_version=”3.0.106″ tab_font=”|700|||on||||” tab_font_size=”16px” tab_text_color=”#000000″ tab_line_height=”2em” tab_line_height_tablet=”2em” tab_line_height_phone=”2em” body_font=”||||||||” body_text_color=”#333333″ body_line_height=”2em” body_line_height_tablet=”2em” body_line_height_phone=”2em” background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat”]Talking to someone about what is troubling you helps you to\u00a0sort through your thoughts and feelings<\/strong><\/span>, whilst keeping them inside allows them to build up and make you feel worse.<\/p>\n

When you dicuss things with someone else, the other person may be able to offer you a different perspective and come up with solutions that you may not have thought of yourself. Consider talking to:<\/p>\n